maintaining contact is one of the hardest things that you can do i think, because through your own personal perspective, some people which you do not talk to much hold importance to you. the challenge stems in the fact that you do not know what others think, so you do not know if they feel the same about you. as humans we do not want to take risks, so we do not want to reach out first. its something i dislike, beacuse i'd like to talk to a lot more people than i currently do, however it is a mental challenge to reach out to these people. because what are you meant to say to them, "id like to talk"? sounds creepy
im not sure how to phrase it, but your own personal perspectives are daunting, because you know that you cannot change them, even if it works against you. for example, as many people do, i hate school. however i also hate how i currently hold no control as to whether i attend school or not. the same applies to the idea that you have certain people that youd like to reach out to and maintain contact with. however, due to your own personal perspective you may think that other people do not frame you in their mind as having equal importance as they are to you. time does go past, people get older and eventually even opportunities like these will slip, because even in todays age of technology being everywhere, contact does slip, and eventually you do not find yourself willing to message a person at all
the inevitable is the scariest, because it is a ticking time bomb. i go back to school in a couple weeks, and i know that it is inevitable that i do go back to school. this not only puts pressure on you to i.e spend the rest of your time the best as possible. school is probably a bad example for this, but an example that would relate to way more people would be the idea that inevitably, most people WILL join the workforce and have a job, even if you like it or not. however, the thing that does scare me is the reality that scares me is the vast majority simply accept these ideas, that they will do something, even if they do not want to. do people not want to change anything? live how they want to? i do not understand purely how so many people live against their will. this idea of many people refraining from doing certain things because of certain mental barriers in their mind has caused me to recently change my perspective on religion, and has challenged a lot of my beliefs. a lot of people do not do certain actions because it is forbidden to do so by their religion, which is completely fair, and a lot of these outlined actions in holy books, etc do actually make sense. however when it comes down to smaller rules, such as the use of contraception in catholic christianity, it puzzles me. i do not understand how this could possibly be a sin, and why it is forbidden. if certain things are naturally made to be done, then how come you are restricted from these actions? of course, this is not to say that you should go and start murdering people, but for smaller examples like the one i have just listed.
all in all, im probably presenting this wrong, however i want to present the idea that many people do not do purely because they believe they cannot, and my no means am i immune to this, i am clearly a victim to my own thoughts, as shown in my example of me being afraid to reach out to old contacts. however, certain aspects of life, such as me "needing" go get a job, or even me "needing" go to unversity i will just not ignore. i feel like the restriction of freedom is fascinating, because in many times you are not restricted by external factors (i.e law, etc) but rather your mind.
it is all about your perspective
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